Although experiencing low libido can be hard on both you and your partner, it’s important to recognize how common this condition is for aging men and women to experience. If you find yourself asking the question, “why do I have a low libido?” it could be due to your habits and lifestyle—and the good news is that habits and lifestyle are not permanent! Low libido is actually very addressable.
Having some trouble pinning down the culprit? It could be one or any combination of the lifestyle focuses listed below.
One of the most common correlations that can be made to low libido is a lack of exercise. Conversely, the more you exercise, the more likely you are to have higher libido. Try and find exercise that you enjoy and incorporate this into your day-to-day routine. The more you enjoy it, the more likely you will be to keep the habit.
Even spending time outdoors can help increase endorphins and heighten libido. Take a hike, kayak down a nearby river or visit the beach. If you have a busy schedule that prohibits travelling very far, you can simply get a gym membership and work on your fitness through that elliptical. The main idea is to keep your body active and engaged, to release endorphins and heighten your libido.
Getting eight hours (or not) will directly affect how well your body functions. If your body is deprived of sleep and functioning at a lower-than-normal level, it will not be able to expend energy in pursuit of romantic endeavors. People cannot easily rebound from lack of sleep, so it’s very important to ensure you receive the right amount nightly. Make sure that it’s restful sleep too, with no lights or distractions coming between you and your REM cycle.
If your libido has fallen off a cliff in dramatic fashion, it might be time to take a look at the prescription medications you are taking or have started taking recently. Quite often, low libido is a side effect of medications. Certain types of depressants are especially tricky and could lower libido without warning. It’s always best to talk to your doctor about what the best option for you may be, given your particular needs. In some cases, alternative medications may be prescribed to help combat low libido. In other cases, you might have to change part of your lifestyle to get your groove back!
Extreme, excessive or constant stress can do funny things to your body. When stressed, your body has a hard time keeping up with daily tasks, especially as you get older. In the face of high stress, your libido is often the first to suffer and the only true way to recapture it is to make changes that lower your stress level.
Perhaps you can try yoga as a form of exercise and to help address the stressful parts of life? Others have found success in meditation. However you fight it, make sure stress doesn’t take over! You want to enjoy life to the fullest—keeping stress out will help you live in the moment, increasing libido levels.
Bodily changes can signal changing levels of hormones or testosterone. This is important to identify so that you know how it can affect libido and other aspects of your sexual life.
If you have recently gained or lost a significant amount of weight, you could be experiencing low libido. Even pregnancy, which is a huge body change, leaves some women experiencing low libido. This is entirely normal and will most likely pass with time as your body gets used to the changes.
The food you put in your body is one of the smallest changes you can make, with the largest effect on increasing your libido.
There are certain foods that are better for libido than others. Foods that are good for libido include watermelon, broccoli, eggs, ginger, lettuce, cloves, figs, green tea and many more. There are also a few that should be avoided, like processed breads, shrimp, microwave popcorn, alcohol and diet soda. If you have gotten into bad eating habits, you can always change them. You may be surprised how quickly your libido will respond to the new intake!
While there is no catch-all diet, avoiding processed foods is a sure-fire way to get the right things into your body. Avoid carbohydrates and sugar, because these are closely associated with some of the health problems that inhibit libido, including obesity and type 2 diabetes.
Lastly, treat yourself to the good stuff! Incorporating nature’s sweets—raspberries, blueberries, cherries—into your diet instead of that heavy dessert will help your libido immensely.
Remember, changing habits isn’t easy
Make sure to cut yourself some slack! As you change your habits, remember that the occasional slip-up is not the end of the world. It’s hard to change routines, especially the longer you’ve had them, and you should remember that self-love is always good as you pursue better health and a stronger libido.